" Dear Miss Mona " (This is the Dear Abbey portion of the website)

If Happy just "is", how do I stay happy?

Happy is one of our many feelings and NOT a state of being.


You don't just stay "happy" unless you want to be a Stepford Wife.  Scary!


If you acted happy when someone was hurt that would be inappropriate and it actually would hurt people's feelings. 


Feelings are messengers and experiences that are telling you and others something not necessarily true but a message. 


Peace can be a state of being just as Love can be a state of being.